Comments on: How to Feed a Husband Real Food http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/01/29/how-to-feed-a-husband-real-food/ Balancing God's Gifts...One Baby Step at a Time Fri, 10 Feb 2012 17:09:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Katie http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/01/29/how-to-feed-a-husband-real-food/comment-page-1/#comment-52994 Katie Wed, 29 Dec 2010 20:07:39 +0000 http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/01/29/how-to-feed-a-husband-real-food/#comment-52994 Allie, You are amazing. What an incredible testimony to the power of a praying wife. I say you've made huge gains (I nearly choked when I read your food budget number when you first married. Yowza!) and have much to be proud of! Thank you so much for sharing and for the encouragement - :) Katie Allie,
You are amazing. What an incredible testimony to the power of a praying wife. I say you’ve made huge gains (I nearly choked when I read your food budget number when you first married. Yowza!) and have much to be proud of! Thank you so much for sharing and for the encouragement – :) Katie

]]> By: AllieZirkle http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/01/29/how-to-feed-a-husband-real-food/comment-page-1/#comment-51886 AllieZirkle Thu, 23 Dec 2010 06:21:58 +0000 http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/01/29/how-to-feed-a-husband-real-food/#comment-51886 Anon, I know the feeling! My Hubby was 27 when we got married. For his entire life, he consumed processed foods. His love for McDs, taco bell, and WhatAburger were tough to compete with! Our food budget was $2,000 per month for thr first year because he would only eat food from a fast food joint for 3 meals / day. His love of chocolate milk & chocolate pudding kills my food budget, 6 years later. In introducing whole foods & real foods, it took a lot of strength on my part. He happens to love Thai food (curry) so we started the veggie & non-gmo chicken in his dish. I'd buy the food, prep it, and he wouldn't ask questions. Slowly there were more veggies added, because when it's cut for you, it's easy to add extra. I put it out there, in a "come to Jesus" meeting. 1) our budget is suffering 2) our kids need you at meal times 3) our health is suffering 4) our bodies are God's and we are disrespecting them 5) childhood obesity & diabetes are controlled by us NOT our children (monkey see, monkey do). I do keep quik meals on hand (i.e. totinos pizzas) and homemade burritos with store bought tortillas. Baby steps in incorporating real foods. I'm the grocery shopper, and it's my job to keep a balanced selection of food. It was 90/10 processed/real foods. Now it's 25/75 with all whole foods and 25% of our budget going to fast food. That doesn't feel wonderful, but I know it's so much better than it was. Know that you aren't alone :) Ps- God is good. So good. Keep praying and seeking out these resources. Hugs Anon! Allie Anon, I know the feeling! My Hubby was 27 when we got married. For his entire life, he consumed processed foods. His love for McDs, taco bell, and WhatAburger were tough to compete with! Our food budget was $2,000 per month for thr first year because he would only eat food from a fast food joint for 3 meals / day. His love of chocolate milk & chocolate pudding kills my food budget, 6 years later.

In introducing whole foods & real foods, it took a lot of strength on my part. He happens to love Thai food (curry) so we started the veggie & non-gmo chicken in his dish. I’d buy the food, prep it, and he wouldn’t ask questions. Slowly there were more veggies added, because when it’s cut for you, it’s easy to add extra.

I put it out there, in a “come to Jesus” meeting. 1) our budget is suffering 2) our kids need you at meal times 3) our health is suffering 4) our bodies are God’s and we are disrespecting them 5) childhood obesity & diabetes are controlled by us NOT our children (monkey see, monkey do).

I do keep quik meals on hand (i.e. totinos pizzas) and homemade burritos with store bought tortillas. Baby steps in incorporating real foods. I’m the grocery shopper, and it’s my job to keep a balanced selection of food. It was 90/10 processed/real foods. Now it’s 25/75 with all whole foods and 25% of our budget going to fast food. That doesn’t feel wonderful, but I know it’s so much better than it was.

Know that you aren’t alone :) Ps- God is good. So good. Keep praying and seeking out these resources. Hugs Anon!

Allie

]]> By: Katie http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/01/29/how-to-feed-a-husband-real-food/comment-page-1/#comment-51866 Katie Thu, 23 Dec 2010 05:28:06 +0000 http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/01/29/how-to-feed-a-husband-real-food/#comment-51866 Oh, how sad for your children and your marriage! I am so sorry to hear what stress you have at dinnertime and will pray for your family this week. He should at least go in the garage or something with his popcorn! :( You're right, the rest of us are counting our blessings... Oh, how sad for your children and your marriage! I am so sorry to hear what stress you have at dinnertime and will pray for your family this week. He should at least go in the garage or something with his popcorn! :(
You’re right, the rest of us are counting our blessings…

]]> By: anonymous http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/01/29/how-to-feed-a-husband-real-food/comment-page-1/#comment-51857 anonymous Thu, 23 Dec 2010 04:10:28 +0000 http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/01/29/how-to-feed-a-husband-real-food/#comment-51857 I read everyone's comments and you all are soooo blessed. My dh ONLY eats ramen noodles, chicken nuggets, frozen burritos, corndogs, hamburgers or hotdogs, scrambled or fried eggs, pork chops MAYBE hamburger helper. He doesn't LIKE steak, or stew. He hates to go to restaurants, besides fast food. He eats absolutely no vegs or fruits, besides potatoes and very finely minced onions in a few things. He will eat pintos, no other beans. He will make a smoothie with a banana once a month. He eats no condiments, besides bbq sauce and gravy. He uses cheese for a condiment, like on meat or something. He will not eat it by itself. He will eat sugar cereals only. He won't even eat oatmeal COOKIES. He drinks milk, but likes pop, koolaids, teas, energy drinks and coffee better. He WILL eat whole wheat bread and pasta and brown rice (not too often on the rice n pasta tho will he eat it--he simply will make corn dogs that nite) I can not believe he has survived his 32 yrs. And he rarely gets sick and then it's for about 24 hrs and it's over, no matter what it is. He doesn't care AT ALL about health. I am making it all up. He is ruled by his tastes. He only eats what tastes good. Chocolate cake for brkfst and only chocolate cake is FINE. Look at him, he's fine and he's always eaten this way. Milk is $1.50 a gallon here and I want to spend $6 a gallon on organic!?!?!?! I guarantee there is no other man on earth like him as far as food goes. He is completely incorrigible on this issue. He has very high blood pressure now and is obese. He would eat 2 meals a day at a fast food place if he could afford it. Everyday. There is no changing him. He will die from food abuse in the next ten yrs but becuz he is so addicted to taste and appeasing HIMSELF, he can not stop it. So if you're able to make a meatloaf with ground up organ meats in it and add onions, parsley and celery to it and then top it with ketchup, clap your hands with joy. My husband would eat the mashed potatoes that nite (or probably not even that without a gravy) and skip the applesauce and sautéed green beans along with the meatloaf. Then he would nuke a bag of popcorn in front of the kids and sit 8ft away in the livingroom while the kids smell it and refuse to eat their dinner. I had no idea the depth of his mental illness or I would have run. I read everyone’s comments and you all are soooo blessed. My dh ONLY eats ramen noodles, chicken nuggets, frozen burritos, corndogs, hamburgers or hotdogs, scrambled or fried eggs, pork chops MAYBE hamburger helper. He doesn’t LIKE steak, or stew. He hates to go to restaurants, besides fast food. He eats absolutely no vegs or fruits, besides potatoes and very finely minced onions in a few things. He will eat pintos, no other beans. He will make a smoothie with a banana once a month. He eats no condiments, besides bbq sauce and gravy. He uses cheese for a condiment, like on meat or something. He will not eat it by itself. He will eat sugar cereals only. He won’t even eat oatmeal COOKIES. He drinks milk, but likes pop, koolaids, teas, energy drinks and coffee better. He WILL eat whole wheat bread and pasta and brown rice (not too often on the rice n pasta tho will he eat it–he simply will make corn dogs that nite)
I can not believe he has survived his 32 yrs. And he rarely gets sick and then it’s for about 24 hrs and it’s over, no matter what it is.
He doesn’t care AT ALL about health. I am making it all up. He is ruled by his tastes. He only eats what tastes good. Chocolate cake for brkfst and only chocolate cake is FINE. Look at him, he’s fine and he’s always eaten this way. Milk is $1.50 a gallon here and I want to spend $6 a gallon on organic!?!?!?!
I guarantee there is no other man on earth like him as far as food goes. He is completely incorrigible on this issue. He has very high blood pressure now and is obese. He would eat 2 meals a day at a fast food place if he could afford it. Everyday. There is no changing him. He will die from food abuse in the next ten yrs but becuz he is so addicted to taste and appeasing HIMSELF, he can not stop it.
So if you’re able to make a meatloaf with ground up organ meats in it and add onions, parsley and celery to it and then top it with ketchup, clap your hands with joy. My husband would eat the mashed potatoes that nite (or probably not even that without a gravy) and skip the applesauce and sautéed green beans along with the meatloaf. Then he would nuke a bag of popcorn in front of the kids and sit 8ft away in the livingroom while the kids smell it and refuse to eat their dinner.
I had no idea the depth of his mental illness or I would have run.

]]> By: Erin http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/01/29/how-to-feed-a-husband-real-food/comment-page-1/#comment-21564 Erin Wed, 16 Jun 2010 19:54:55 +0000 http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/01/29/how-to-feed-a-husband-real-food/#comment-21564 My husband is from Mexico, so going back to the way things were is heaven to him. He is total thrilled about getting raw milk, and I think he was a little shocked too ;-). His mom barely used canned or boxed or bottled anything, and though some of what I learn from these various whole foods sites are not Mexican in flavor, I know enough of how to make Mexican food to adopt it to that side of how we eat. We are both excited, but he is looking at the bottom line too. When it comes to organic produce he was a little upset yesterday when I put my foot down to non-organic produce, until I took him home, sat him down and explained that we are reverting back a little. Eat what is in season, can, freeze and dehydrate to have produce all year. He is coming around to some of it, and will to the rest. I know him enough to know that he wants organic produce because it tastes more like home, but he is worried about the cost. Like I tell him, it will take time to build up what we have and be switched over, and it will take money, but once it happens, we will end up with most likely a lower budget because I will have on hand canned, frozen and dehydrated produce, frozen organic meats, hopefully our own chickens for fresh organic eggs, grain for breads etc...that leaves room to buy fresh produce and raw milk here and there when needed. My husband is from Mexico, so going back to the way things were is heaven to him. He is total thrilled about getting raw milk, and I think he was a little shocked too ;-) . His mom barely used canned or boxed or bottled anything, and though some of what I learn from these various whole foods sites are not Mexican in flavor, I know enough of how to make Mexican food to adopt it to that side of how we eat. We are both excited, but he is looking at the bottom line too. When it comes to organic produce he was a little upset yesterday when I put my foot down to non-organic produce, until I took him home, sat him down and explained that we are reverting back a little. Eat what is in season, can, freeze and dehydrate to have produce all year. He is coming around to some of it, and will to the rest. I know him enough to know that he wants organic produce because it tastes more like home, but he is worried about the cost. Like I tell him, it will take time to build up what we have and be switched over, and it will take money, but once it happens, we will end up with most likely a lower budget because I will have on hand canned, frozen and dehydrated produce, frozen organic meats, hopefully our own chickens for fresh organic eggs, grain for breads etc…that leaves room to buy fresh produce and raw milk here and there when needed.

]]> By: Katie http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/01/29/how-to-feed-a-husband-real-food/comment-page-1/#comment-10615 Katie Sun, 07 Feb 2010 09:49:28 +0000 http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/01/29/how-to-feed-a-husband-real-food/#comment-10615 Expat Mom, An excellent litmus test! :) Katie Expat Mom,
An excellent litmus test! :) Katie

]]> By: Katie http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/01/29/how-to-feed-a-husband-real-food/comment-page-1/#comment-10611 Katie Sun, 07 Feb 2010 09:25:30 +0000 http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/01/29/how-to-feed-a-husband-real-food/#comment-10611 Jason, That is an excellent insight. What different lives we lead as an at-home vs. at-work spouse! :) Katie Jason,
That is an excellent insight. What different lives we lead as an at-home vs. at-work spouse! :) Katie

]]> By: jason http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/01/29/how-to-feed-a-husband-real-food/comment-page-1/#comment-10598 jason Sat, 06 Feb 2010 04:53:53 +0000 http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/01/29/how-to-feed-a-husband-real-food/#comment-10598 Having switched from being the primary breadwinner to a stay-at-home, I think there's a different sort of mental energy when you're home all day, dealing primarily with kids instead of adults, constantly being asked for food, dealing with family sicknesses and mood/energy swings, waiting at appointments, shuttling kids around, etc. It's easier to do lots of thinking about how to improve the families health. Whereas, the working spouse is thinking all day about job related issues, spending time in professional development seminars, trying not to mentally bring work home, switching gears in the evening to be a parent and enjoy a few hours with the kids, etc. Having switched from being the primary breadwinner to a stay-at-home, I think there’s a different sort of mental energy when you’re home all day, dealing primarily with kids instead of adults, constantly being asked for food, dealing with family sicknesses and mood/energy swings, waiting at appointments, shuttling kids around, etc. It’s easier to do lots of thinking about how to improve the families health.

Whereas, the working spouse is thinking all day about job related issues, spending time in professional development seminars, trying not to mentally bring work home, switching gears in the evening to be a parent and enjoy a few hours with the kids, etc.

]]> By: Katie (too) http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/01/29/how-to-feed-a-husband-real-food/comment-page-1/#comment-10509 Katie (too) Wed, 03 Feb 2010 23:52:35 +0000 http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/01/29/how-to-feed-a-husband-real-food/#comment-10509 I think the main thing is to make changes slowly. My husband doesn't care too much about the health part, honestly. But he is a huge fan of homemade bread (with unbleached all-purpose flour, because we're really not whole wheat people), chicken soup, and broccoli with butter. I've found that the things I really think he'll object to turn out to be no big deal, and vice versa. One step at a time, and like Sally Fallon says, it's not healthy if NO ONE will eat it. :) I think the main thing is to make changes slowly. My husband doesn’t care too much about the health part, honestly. But he is a huge fan of homemade bread (with unbleached all-purpose flour, because we’re really not whole wheat people), chicken soup, and broccoli with butter. I’ve found that the things I really think he’ll object to turn out to be no big deal, and vice versa. One step at a time, and like Sally Fallon says, it’s not healthy if NO ONE will eat it. :)

]]> By: Expat Mom http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/01/29/how-to-feed-a-husband-real-food/comment-page-1/#comment-10451 Expat Mom Tue, 02 Feb 2010 02:24:40 +0000 http://www.kitchenstewardship.com/2010/01/29/how-to-feed-a-husband-real-food/#comment-10451 My husband is very reluctant to try new food, but he's gradually getting used to it. He will taste it and then ask me what's in it . . . but even if he doesn't like what I make, he eats it so the boys will see him doing it. :) To get an honest reaction I ask, "So, would you want to eat that again?" And he'll say, "Not really", "Maybe once in a while." or "Sure!" .-= Expat Mom´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/ExpatMom/~3/aGB5-AjqBDs/">Excuse Me While I Freak Out a Little</a> =-. My husband is very reluctant to try new food, but he’s gradually getting used to it. He will taste it and then ask me what’s in it . . . but even if he doesn’t like what I make, he eats it so the boys will see him doing it. :)

To get an honest reaction I ask, “So, would you want to eat that again?” And he’ll say, “Not really”, “Maybe once in a while.” or “Sure!”
.-= Expat Mom´s last blog ..Excuse Me While I Freak Out a Little =-.

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