Your mission, if you choose to accept, is to go a whole week (or a day) without using the phrase “get something done” to talk about your goals for the day or “couldn’t get anything done” to evaluate the day’s success.
Do you hear your own voice in those phrases?
This mission was inspired when I heard my words coming back at me out of the mouth of my 4-year-old telling her babies, “Mommy has to get some stuff done so I can’t play with you right now,” and saying exasperatedly, “I have so many kids, and I just can’t get anything done, all the time!”
This mission isn’t about changing anything in your kitchen or home, improving your family’s (physical) health, saving time or money, or being “green.” It’s not anything Kitchen Stewardship typically focuses on, but it’s really at the heart of the mission: Family.
Kitchen Stewardship seeks to help people balance their family’s nutrition and health, care for the environment, money, and time…all through the eyes of faith.
I spend a lot of time and energy talking about “what I got done” and “I just couldn’t get anything done!” and “I have so much I want to get done.” The value of a day is literally measured in tick marks on a to-do list, as if accomplishing all my tasks for the day makes me a better person and my day a success.
Sometimes I wonder if (and worry that) my kids think my whole life’s purpose is about “getting things done.” And whether they feel that way or not…is that how I’m living?
This week, instead of measuring my success or the worth of my day by how many “things” I “got done,” I’m going to make a conscious, Herculean effort to say, “I spent such quality time with my kids today,” when someone asks, “How was your day?”
I’m going to strive to start the day with, “I have so much love I want to pour out on the world,” instead of “I have so many things I want to get done today.”
I need this mission, but I thought I’d share it with you in case anyone wants to be dragged along for the ride.
I’m Not Going to be Lazy
Far too precious to be ignored…can you tell the wee one is doing his utmost to get away? He was a terror for these pictures!
Just to clarify, this isn’t my big excuse to stop cooking meals for my family and cleaning up the house. I won’t be silent on the blog this week (oh, horrors!) and I’ll certainly continue to make a to-do list.
The mission, and the paradigm shift, is to change my perspective on success.
I’m trying to consciously change my language and slightly shift my priorities in order to first take care of the little ones whose lives I am charged with, emotionally and spiritually. To love them and look them in the eye, and at the same time to clean up after them and feed them nourishing meals, thus also caring for their physical beings.
I know it can be done, even if I have to fake it when my husband comes home asking, “How was your day, honey?” and all I want to say is: “Arg! I couldn’t get anything done!”
If I can, with a smile, tell him how pleased I am that I built block towers for John to knock down and read two books with Leah, I’m halfway home to changing my own attitude through my actions.
Love – and parenting – is an act of the will.
My children will get one day older every day, 100% guaranteed.
My to-do list will not change my life whether it has four things crossed off or seven.
This week, I choose to focus on people, not things; relationships, not tasks.
Wish me luck!
And right now? I’m going to try to make use of John’s nap to…um…get…um…consider what the best us of my time for the good of my family will be today.