"Are you done yet?"
If you have two or more children, I guarantee you’ve heard this question, likely from someone you’d barely deem an acquaintance and usually when the second child is barely used to breathing air yet. Brace yourself for the onslaught if you have three or more.
Is anything more personal than a husband and wife’s decision to have children as a result of their consummate love for each other??? Yet somehow it has become acceptable and commonplace in our backward society for anyone to inquire about a couple’s bedroom habits and future family planning!
Pet peeve central over here.
And while we’re peeving…how about taking that interference in one’s family size a step further by denigrating big families and judging parents for having "too many" children?
My post at Green Your Way today is an attempt to counter some of that negativity by exploring some really positive environmentally friendly habits that generally come out of big families – the opposite of what media pundits would claim: namely that having more than two children is a "drain on the earth’s resources."
I have five children, and I don’t even own a farm. Traditionally, big families were necessary to help with the harvest, and there was also an understanding that some children may be lost to disease. Now we have tractors, and everyone is going to make it through the winter.
Big families are very rare today. When I was growing up, it wasn’t uncommon to have a friend who came from a big family. Today, big families are like waterbed stores; they used to be everywhere, and now they are just weird. Admit it, whenever you see a waterbed store, you think, “Wow. That has to be a front for something illegal.”
–Jim Gaffigan in Dad is Fat
If we’re running out of anything here in America, it’s not resources – it’s restraint.
We drive wherever we want to go, we turn on a plethora of lights and gadgets, we eat big meals, and we live in a disposable society.
We are not, as a general rule, gentle on the earth.
As Jim Gaffigan humorously points out, large families used to be the norm 50-100 years ago and no longer are. In fact, some countries are not even reproducing at replacement rate, yet the fear of running out of food in the future still reigns among those who believe in overpopulation.
The over-population advocates suggest that procreating beyond the replacement rate of 2.1 children per woman is reckless, irresponsible, harming the earth and even selfish, but I disagree wholeheartedly.
In fact, I think the opposite may very well be true: Large families are an environmental dream come true and naturally foster a spirit of eco-friendliness.