Summer colds are no fun.
But usually, they’re no big deal.
This one was different:
All three of our kids, ages 8, 5 and 23 months, had a terrible cough. None of them had a characteristic “whoop,” that the symptoms of whooping cough describe, but something about it was itching at the corners of my mind for a day.
The next morning, as soon as my eyes opened, I thought: my kids have whooping cough. I was on the computer figuring out symptoms before anyone else in the household was up – or at least, up to stay. My toddler had, of course, been up what felt like dozens of times that night.
It’s hard for me even to know where to start with this story, which will unfold over the course of three posts.
For a while, I didn’t want to change the title because I thought it still had a lot of worth. But now that I’ve met too many people with actual vaccine injuries that impact their lives every day, I know the truth: THEY are the ones who truly lost the vaccine odds. Getting whooping cough and having no lasting effects from it is actually a win.
When we were in the throes of whooping cough with all three, I was unable to share on social media for weeks because it was too raw, too real (and you all know I’m pretty darn open with my faults and being “real” around here!).
I felt embarrassed.
Now, as we’re nearly finished with the effects of whooping cough, I’m looking back at the notes I jotted down when it all began. It already feels like a distant memory. Was it really that bad?
I’m glad I wrote quite a bit while everything was fresh, because it’s a different story from the foxholes than it would have been if I was sharing from my current vantage point.
How Bad is Whooping Cough?
When the neighbor comes over because she can hear him coughing from inside the house and is worried that he’s choking…
When the child wakes up at 10:00, 11:30, 12:00, 1:00, 2:30, 4:00, 5:00, 6:00 and 7:00…
When vomit three times and more per day becomes the new normal…
When you as a parent have to take on a detached feeling when the child is coughing, even though it sounds like the most awful thing…
…you know it’s not just a cold.
Experiencing whooping cough was bad enough that I felt embarrassed to share not only on social media, but with friends in real life. It took a while for things to feel less raw, but even now, my mouth is dry and hands shaking as I put the story together in print.
We felt like it was our fault that our children, and in particular our 23-month old John, had to deal with the awful coughing and not being able to breathe. It’s gut-wrenching to watch. It’s equally gut-wrenching to question our decisions.
Our Vaccination Story
I really can’t talk about contracting whooping cough without sharing our vaccine background as a family.
When my oldest, now eight years old, was born, I did what the doctors told me, more or less. I hated the thought of formula and cried when I was told he wasn’t gaining weight well enough, and I had to supplement. But on vaccines, we followed orders. So son number one, Paul, was fully vaccinated until it came time for his kindergarten boosters, and then we entered the wonderful world of “the waiver.” He did not get any of his boosters.
The reason for that is the research I did with baby number two, Leah. She’s three years younger than Paul, and our lifestyle had changed a great deal in those three years that I spent as a mostly stay-at-home mom.
When I was expecting Leah, I read The Vaccine Book by Dr. Robert Sears. It’s wonderful in that it breaks down each vaccine as a separate decision and shares research on the risks and benefits of the vaccine.
As a result, Leah started her young life with far fewer shots than Paul. We opted out of about half and delayed some others. By this summer, she had received two of her recommended five pertussis vaccinations (the vaccination for whooping cough).
After Leah’s birth, I started blogging and entered the wild world of far “crunchier” mamas than I encountered in my regular life. By the time John was born three years later, I had a pretty healthy fear of vaccines. (Not fear in the, “I don’t trust God to take care of my family,” sort of way, but the, “I don’t really want to put that directly into my child’s bloodstream, especially when he only weighs 8 pounds,” kind of fear.)
Although we had planned to begin one or two vaccines last year at his 12-month checkup, and he was even taking Vaccishield (a review product) in preparation, he got his very first cold right before the appointment, so we backed out, shooting for the 15-month checkup.
At that time, although he was mostly healthy in between, he contracted another cold, and instead of shots, he came home with a diagnosis of pneumonia (which we treated naturally, at home – more fighting pneumonia naturally here).
Our much-loved pediatrician left her practice to be a stay-at-home mom, and at the time of the 18-month appointment, I just didn’t know where we wanted to go for care, so I chose to hold off. John had pneumonia again right around his half birthday anyway (Katie rolls her eyes in disgust).
The bottom line was that by mid-summer, a month before John’s second birthday, and through a series of odd coincidences and conscious choices, our toddler was completely unvaccinated against pertussis (and everything else).
Believe me, even though I already said we had to learn to feel a bit detached during the coughing spells or lose our minds, the guilt of feeling like we did this to our child (and children) was intense. Raw. Embarrassing.
Learning that Someone You Love has Whooping Cough
Whooping cough (pertussis) starts out like any other cold. You might notice a bad cough, but at first – when your child is quite contagious – you probably don’t even know what’s going on.
Most people can figure out from whom they got the disease, because it typically takes consistent and persistent contact with someone actually coughing, then sharing the germs with you. You realize something like, “Oh, so-and-so was coughing a ton too – this must be from him!”
With my oldest son, we don’t have a clue who shared pertussis with him. He started coughing on June 22 – a day I know exactly because we were at a family reunion at his grandparents’ house, swimming and socializing. He was perfectly healthy when he woke up, and by the time we were leaving the party, I thought, “Sheesh! This kid just got sick, right now, today! Darn summer colds…”
Almost exactly two weeks later, just before we were considering taking Paul, the oldest, to the doctor’s to see what was up, the younger two started the cough.
None of the kids seemed very under the weather or felt awful all day, but we kept remarking on how, “Goodness! They seem fine for a while and then this huge coughing fit! How odd!” or “It really amps up at night and sounds horrible. I can’t wait for this one to be over…”
I’m not sure exactly how I started to wonder about whooping cough. Maybe John was just starting to develop the “whoop” sound, but he wasn’t very obvious yet. I just couldn’t stop thinking about our vaccination choices, how something was awry with this cough, and that it might be whooping cough, even though I couldn’t determine where in the world was the “whoop”.
On that early morning research foray, my searches led me to a few basic sites that defined whooping cough, like this one, which began to confirm my suspicion but kept me looking. I read all the details at Mayo Clinic’s site, but it wasn’t until I found this whooping cough information and browsed around that site that I was 100% convinced.
The WhoopingCough.net site is written by a family doctor from the UK who studied whooping cough in his community for 30 years. His goal with the site is help both parents and doctors diagnose whooping cough more accurately, because it is his opinion that whooping cough is severely underdiagnosed, and in my experience, I agree wholeheartedly.
He has a few videos shared by parents, and the second I saw them – heard them – I knew we were dealing with a triple case of whooping cough.
I can barely remember how I shared the news with my husband, but I can recall a visceral feeling of oppression. Of weight, literally sitting on my shoulders. I had no choice but to lift it up and move on, but it wasn’t an easy load to carry.
That was two weeks in, and one of the facts I learned on my research expedition was that antibiotics are most effective in the first five days and really only help to keep the disease from being contagious. The disease itself more or less ends after three weeks (but may last up to six weeks). Since we were 14-15 days in, by the time antibiotics would kick in, John would likely not be contagious anymore anyway.
We decided against pursuing a prescription, my one silver lining: two of my kids still have never been introduced to pharmaceutical antibiotics.
One other fact I learned was that in Asia, whooping cough is called “The 100 Days Cough.” We were about to find out why.
What Whooping Cough Sounds Like
Only half of all whooping cough cases present with the “whoop” sound, which is one reason pertussis goes severely underdiagnosed.
It’s recommended that if you suspect it at all, or if your child tends to go long spans of time without any coughing, and then has a huge coughing attack (a key symptom of whooping cough), you should try to get a video to show to your doctor. Chances are, the child wouldn’t end up coughing during the doctor’s visit and you’d get an inaccurate diagnosis.
This is what whooping cough sounds like without the whoop (the video of my 5-year-old daughter was taken about 3 weeks after symptoms started):
If you can’t see the video, click HERE to view it on YouTube.
And here’s our little guy, almost two years old, at the same time, three weeks after symptoms began:
If you can’t see the video, click HERE to view it on YouTube.
He clearly has the whoop, which started about 15-16 days in.
The sound of the deep, chesty coughs reverberates through the walls at night. The rhythm isn’t hack, hack hack; it’s “Ah-tum, ah-tum, ah-tum,” almost two syllables, more like a sneeze cadence than a cough.
The classic “whoop” is a fairly easy-to-recognize sign, but neither of our older kids exhibited it. They both did have coughing fits that made it hard for them to breathe, like too much “out” without enough “in” for their air, and also exhibited the classic whooping cough sign of going long periods with no coughing at all.
What Whooping Cough is Really Like
Back in the midst of the pertussis grip on our household, I wrote:
“John is like a time bomb, we never know when he’ll cough and vomit.”
“He wakes up about every hour (or more) for much of the night, then somehow sleeps peacefully, generally, from 6-9 in the morning.”
“We can’t drive anywhere without being ready for vomit, and ‘bucket management’ has become part of our vocabulary, i.e. making sure there’s always either a bucket or hard flooring nearby at all times.”
It was during this time when I had the unfortunate experience of blueberry smoothie making a return appearance, after John had been enjoying our new review product, a Squooshi reusable food pouch, and wandered onto the carpet before I realized it.
I was pretty adept at knowing when the upchuck was coming – did I mention yet that he vomited or at least spit up about a dozen times a day? I caught some but not all of the green/blueberry smoothie. This natural carpet spot cleaner post was one of the first times I alluded to the whole saga, and that wasn’t even written until some months later.
And how long does it really last?
Somewhere around 7 weeks (or 49 days). I wrote down that “50 days might as well be 100.” It feels long, and I couldn’t imagine how 50 more days was going to feel.
While preparing for this post, I was still trying to tape the sound of John at night through the monitor to share online, because he still had the “whoop” sound. I checked the calendar, and it turns out that it was exactly a frightening 100 days from the start date when symptoms appeared.
Symptoms of Whooping Cough
With three cases in the house, we saw plenty of whooping cough symptoms. If you really want to understand the disease, I can’t say enough about this doctor’s site, which has everything the rest of the Internet has on whooping cough plus a ton more information and experience.
For those who just want an overview, here’s a list of possible symptoms:
- long span of time between coughs, often 2-4 hours without a problem (but not exactly “fine all day, coughs at night,” which is more related to croup)
- a choking cough that lasts 1-2 minutes (although not always, in our experience, and not with every child)
- turning red or blue in the face during a coughing spasm
- coughing so hard you vomit
- Our 8-year-old wet the bed nearly every night for two weeks, perhaps because he was coughing so hard, perhaps because of some other related side effect (being so tired from the coughing waking him up?)
Not everyone will demonstrate all the symptoms, but whooping cough is almost always characterized by a long break between coughing spasms.
By the way, did I mention I’m not a doctor, not a nurse, not anyone qualified to give medical advice of any kind? I’m just a mom who had three sick kids, read some stuff on the Internet, and felt compelled to share. Please, don’t take any of my advice with any more weight than you’d accept advice from a random neighbor.
Beyond the Symptoms: Life with Whooping Cough
Reading a list of the symptoms, and even watching the video of my kids, neither of whom had a truly serious case of whooping cough, cannot do justice to the fact that it’s literally a new lifestyle, with as many emotional pressures and habit changes as the transition to say, a grain-free lifestyle doing it all at once.
During our experience, when I had an extra brain cell available to think, I was often thinking about how I would eventually have to share the whole story with all of you, because I think it’s important to get beyond the text in a book describing a disease and into the life of a real family who experienced it.
Many of you are in positions where you’re deciding on vaccinations for your children. I’ll talk much more about our decision process and how it may or may not change from here on out, but here are some of the thoughts that Katie-in-the-midst-of-the-whooping-cough-crisis often wanted you to hear:
If you don’t vaccinate against whooping cough, you need to know what you’re risking:
- You have to be ready to deal with coughing-to-vomiting a dozen times a day. Not for one or two days, but for 2-4 weeks, potentially.
- Are you ready for 100 days of shortened or missed naps?
- You have to be willing to have your child cough so loudly and sound so scary that everyone in the room looks at you.
- Imagine yourself saying to someone you’re acquainted with: “My child has whooping cough.” Evaluate how that would make you feel.
- You have to be ready to keep your child out of school or daycare for 21 days – and siblings too? That includes church, library time, and any other fun family functions you might have planned in a given month, summer or winter.
- You have to be willing to stay away from all the babies in your life for a long time, 3-4 weeks at least, and probably all elderly people too.
- Consider an illness that lasts 7 weeks to three months. Can you sustain care that long for your child?
- You have to be prepared to deal with rude people who will judge you for not getting your baby/child vaccinated.
- You can’t love your sleep. You’ll likely wake up somewhere between once an hour and three times a night, or sometimes once every 5-20 minutes.
Then again, you may have to go through the same list even if you do vaccinate…which is precisely the problem.
The range of emotions as a parent can’t be underestimated – from being in agony watching your child suffer, to feeling guilty and second-guessing about the vaccine decision, to becoming detached during every coughing spasm, to acting more like a doctor or nurse than a mother or father, to fearing the spread of this disease to babies.
I cannot tell you what it’s like to imagine your child as a walking death trap to a newborn child, and to attempt to walk backward through the two weeks when you didn’t know that it was whooping cough, trying to figure out if we could have infected anyone else.
I’ll pick up the story in the next post with the social aspects of your child having a contagious disease for which there exists a vaccine…
Other Natural Health Posts:
- Fighting Infection without Antibiotics
- Are Hand Sanitizers Safe?
- Get Rid of Warts Naturally
- Natural Remedies for Ear Infections
- Real Food BRATY Diet
- How We Kicked Whooping Cough
- You Probably Need a Parasite Cleanse
- Natural Pneumonia Treatments For Toddlers
- Natural Remedies for Croup
I am always grateful for the community at Kitchen Stewardship – it’s like having the smartest natural moms in the world all living right next door. I’ve compiled the best natural remedies for 12 of the most commonly discussed ailments here at KS, and am making this resource available for free to all my readers!
Imagine this ebook as a virtual chat over the backyard fence with your own neighbor, a wise older mom who raised a bunch of kids with intention, trying to avoid unnecessary medication and being kind to the earth.
Disclosure: There are affiliate links in this post from which I will earn some commission if you make a purchase. See my full disclosure statement here.