You’d think that after 4 years of college and a full year internship program in education, that I’d be uniquely and perfectly suited to be a parent. That as a trained teacher of children and a teacher of an online cooking course for kids that I’d kind of know it all and have much less of a learning curve than most.
I hoped so, too, but if you’re a parent – you know that the most common “curve” is the curveball, and they just keep coming!
Do you ever read the horror stories of children left in a (cool) car for 5 minutes, playing at a neighborhood park or walking somewhere safe by themselves and then being taken away from their parents – and just shudder? No one is a perfect parent, and it’s crazy that one error in judgment can turn into an arrest and legal battle in our current culture.
One thing I’m often struck by in those stories, however, is the parents’ reactions to the mandatory parenting classes they often must take as part of their sentencing.
It “turned out to be a blessing,” said Kim Brooks, after she chose not to fight the charges lest she risk losing – the case and her kids. She enjoyed her community service hours and saw the bright side in the good disciplinary advice she received from the social worker.
We’re all in her shoes.
We’ve all made errors in judgment before in our parenting – whether it had to do with vehicles or ice cream, inconsistent punishments or snapping at a child in frustration.
And I’m willing to bet we’d all benefit from a little professional development in our most important job of all – the care of our children.
We were fortunate to have a parenting class at church last summer that I convinced my husband to attend with me, and it was a great experience.
If you have one for free, locally, my goodness, go for it! But not all of us have the opportunity to do something in person, so it’s amazing that there are chances online to get some “professional development” in our most important job – parenting.
The one we went to was Love & Logic, which I’ve dabbled in off and on since Education school in college and my early parenting years. I love the system – the practicality of it, the slight sarcasm, the logic. It’s totally my style (but I don’t know if it would be a perfect fit for everyone). There are lots of good parenting systems, none of which can be the “best” or “only.” And not everyone needs to use a “system” either!
But one thing that I’m 100% convinced of and was reminded of when we attended the classes at church? That we need refreshers.
Even with my college degree in Education, I still hit points in my parenting where I forget everything I learned (or at least how to apply it). A year ago we felt like horrible parents who yelled all the time. The class was both reassuring and reorienting.
We were given the gift of camaraderie – Yes, it’s hard. Yes, parenting is a complicated affair. Yes, everyone struggles.
The gift of affirmation – Hey, we already do that, way to go, us!
The gift of a reminder – Oh, yeah, we used to know that but fell out of the habit.
On some suggestions, we could only think, Ooooo, that would never work at our house.
But we also found some new gems that could only be described as brilliant ideas.
I’m guessing that’s probably how most parents are at a parenting class.
You gain some skills, you tune out a little. But overall, worth your time for sure.
So worth it, in fact, that I do feel like all parents should be required to have some parenting classes, if even this college-trained teacher gets off course every so often.
I am not going to advocate for the government to step in and mandate and legislate one more thing about our lives though. Ick. I just want to encourage parents to take it upon themselves to think about their vocation as parents as a real job, and thus to seek out professional development on their own.
How about a free opportunity to learn some new parenting gems? I’m excited to invite you to join me next week to:
- learn why kids act out
- get the reversal strategy so you can stop nagging, reminding and yelling to get kids to listen
- add proven tools to your parenting toolbox for your most frustrating discipline dilemmas
- understand simple discipline strategies to encourage your kids to listen and do the right thing
- learn why bribes, time-outs, and counting to 3 aren’t working for you
- nail down the 5 R’s of Fair & Effective Consequences
It’s an hour-long investment in your profession as a parent: a training webinar that will fit your schedule:
I can’t wait for this refresher – again. I’ve attended this very webinar at least twice now, maybe three times, but I won’t be wasting a precious second. It’s been a full year since those Love and Logic classes, and guess what? My good intentions have turned back into yelling, and I’m ready for a reboot.
Thank you, Amy, for giving me an opportunity!
Since there are so many parenting philosophies and “systems” out there, how will you know if Amy’s approach is a good fit for you?
Just come listen – you’ll know by the end of the one-hour workshop if it resonates with you and feels like a comfy old slipper or if you just aren’t the right personality for it. Most KS readers have truly appreciated the strategies, so unless you’re a hard-core spanker or already have well-oiled systems, you have a good chance of connecting with Amy, who is a mom just like me.
If you’re looking to reclaim your calm voice and restore some peace to your home, this webinar will be worth your time tenfold. FIND A WEBINAR TIME THAT WORKS FOR YOU.
Parenting expert and “recovering yeller” Amy McCready is the Founder of Positive Parenting Solutions and the author of the best selling book, The “Me, Me, Me” Epidemic – A Step-by-Step Guide to Raising Capable, Grateful Kids in an Over-Entitled World. Amy is a regular parenting contributor on The TODAY Show and has appeared on Rachael Ray, CBS This Morning, CNN, Fox & Friends, MSNBC, Steve Harvey and elsewhere. In her most important role, she plays mom to two teenage boys.
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