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In this Internet age, there are a lot of myths proliferated widely…are “picky eaters” one of them? Could there be ways to cure your child’s “picky” food preferences – even if they’re not really picky eaters?!
Kresha Faber of Nourishing Joy and I sat down to discuss that topic recently, and I loved her tips!
I firmly believe that most kids who are “picky eaters” really aren’t – they just have gotten in the habit of being able to say no to things they don’t love and eat only what they do. But what to do if your family is already down that path??!
Just try something.
And then get intentional – which is what Kresha and I will share in the video (and short notes).
My example of starting small is the Christmas party I planned for my daughter’s third grade class.
I served only water, fruits and veggies (and popcorn) and was a huge cheerleader encouraging everyone to try something they had never tried before. Almost every child tried a new food, most of them ended up liking something (or at least tolerating it), and hey – nobody cried.
You can hear the whole story plus what I said to the mom who brought the cupcakes (not on the list!) at about the 7-minute mark (or –28:00 on the right hand side of the video) right here – I hope you don’t think it was mean!
You might be able to tell that personally, I think most picky eaters just have bad habits, are probably very stubborn, and are very fixable! It takes some work on the parents’ part, but it’s well worth it. That’s one of the many reasons I choose to teach my kids to cook!
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Curing Picky Eaters – Uncommon Solutions
Now here’s Kresha, with no contraband cupcakes whatsoever, with an excellent interview. You can watch it here, listen to the mp3 while you’re out or read the summary:
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Picky Eaters Interview Summary
I’m a busy mom too, and I’m not usually one for watching a video. I’d rather skim! Here’s some skimmable notes from the video, with timestamps so you can skip ahead and just listen to what interests you the most.
1. Let’s start with your story – why do you bother with real food for your family?
Start at 00:42 for Kresha’s crazy story of losing power and the ability to travel all at once and worrying that she couldn’t feed her tiny baby! A minor crisis that got them thinking, and changing their lives:
2. And how about picky eating? What draws you to tackle this as a passion?
Check out this topic at 4:22 – Because it causes stress and I’m all about reducing stress points. I hear it talked about so much, especially parents who want to transition to real foods. It’s a common stress point across families and we need to address it as family and a society. Let’s free ourselves from those stress points!
3. A lot of parents say they have picky eaters. Sometimes I disagree with their assessments, ahem. 🙂 So…let’s define it. What do you see as “what is a picky eater?” just so we’re all on the same page.
Kresha’s definition starts at 5:45. An important reminder though – “For the first five years it’s normal for kids to go through favorite food phases.”
Hmmmm…really? Nothing to do with food?
4. Do you think there are a variety of reasons a child might be a picky eater? What are some “causes” you come across?
In general, Kresha shared that picky eating often has to do with life, and food is simply a place where children can have control. They have big emotions and big thoughts to deal with, complex relationships that they are negotiating.
As a way to simplify the world as they can understand, it often comes down to food and our children’s relationship with food.
It isn’t about the food itself, but the lives we live outside of our food, the external. Try 6:51 for more great perspectives on this!
RELATED: Reversing & Preventing Picky Eating
5. And how about the “cure?” What are some strategies parents can use?
When we choose to change the situation, it can change the mind.
- eat by candlelight
- eat dinner under the table one night
- picnic in the living room
- use toothpicks or skewers to eat
- You can re-introduce those “picky” foods where the situation is different!
Kresha’s picky eater story is at 9:42. Check all the fun ideas at timestamp 11:00 and one of my brainstorms about crunchy things at 23:36 (obviously we came back to the topic!).
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More ideas and reminders on how difficult it is to try new things…
Make your child feel valued. Knowing your child and valuing them for that helps them develop a life skill.
How do you do something you don’t like to do? If we can infuse that experience with creativity, patience, and joy, then we can help them learn that life skill of conquering something new while being patient with them as they learn this. Our challenge as parents is tailoring this to them.
Get inspired at 19:33 in the video!
For instance, if your child does not like soft food, it’s a sensory thing. Maybe plan a meal around a color, like the color red, or all crunchy foods. They can feel triumphant for eating everything on their plate because they were part of the decision process. They can also feel confident moving forward in the world.
More at 21:08 in the video.
6. Do you have rules for the dinner table?
In our family we have 2 rules:
- You have to take a bite of everything when it is presented.
- If you serve it, you eat it. If someone else serves it, you can have more say in how much you eat.
More on “the bite”: Afterwards, they can choose whether they like it or not. The children are then empowered to make the decision whether to like the food or not like the food. I want them to be mindful of what is given to us and what we take in terms of food. It’s about being mindful.
More on “served”: If food is served to the children, we can negotiate how many bites to take, but if you served it to yourself, you must eat all of the food. (Good stewardship!!) There is a place they are allowed to choose and a place they are not allowed to choose and having control has lessened the battle between parents feeding children healthy food.
Children are left with the lesson there are family rules, but I was able to pick and choose what food I wanted and I had to follow through with my food decision.
Learn about Kresha’s Nourishing Joy rules at 13:00 in the video.
We Get It – It’s Not Easy
This is all very intentional on our part as parents. It takes a lot of creativity and energy!
We may have the best of intentions, but by the end of the day, we are exhausted, so this takes thinking ahead on our part. We have to remember not to burn ourselves out as we help our children.
We talk about how hard it can be – reality check! – at the 25-minute mark, and here’s a post from Kresha on getting your spouse on board with big ideas.
7. Picky eaters or not, real food can already be exhausting. Do you have some tips for the busy mama to help get healthy food on the table, regardless of who’s sitting there waiting…patiently (or not)?
I call them the 3 Ps.
Planning is meal planning. Planning meals ahead makes a massive difference psychologically. I did not have to spend the mental energy and I could still make a meal by mood, if it stuck me. (More great tips at 27:01.)
Kresha knows what she’s talking about as the author of The Tired & Hungry Cook’s Companion, meal plans for real people.
Do Some Prep
Prepping is looking ahead at any recipe and saying what can I do in advance? Can I chop the onions or put together a spice mix? (Listen in at 27:50.)
Stock your Pantry the Right Way
Keep on hand the snacks and ingredients you need. Just have on hand what you are happy people in your family are snacking on and cooking with in your home. Get rid of temptations! These are my long term table strategies. (found at 29:03 in the video)
Note: We know that sometimes picky eating means there’s more going on and a real disorder that needs to be addressed, but that’s not who we’re talking about here. If you wonder whether your child has Sensory Processing Disorder or another issue that might make these tips obsolete for you, please read this incredible guest post on picky eaters with deeper problems.
Need more tips? Find out how to use all EIGHT senses to help picky eaters and Eating Styles.