How long do you spend in the kitchen each day preparing food and cleaning up after meals?
Thirty minutes per meal? An hour?
Some days I feel like breakfast alone takes almost two hours!
Check this out:
The average American only spends about half an hour a day on all kitchen tasks combined.
I am not average, my friends, and if you’re reading this blog, I’m guessing you are not either.
Only about 4 minutes of the 31 spent on food are designated for cleaning up, which leaves time for barely anything other than throwing away packaging and paper plates (or accounts for many days when nobody makes food at all?). After our family’s dinners, I’m pretty sure we spend more than 4 minutes just carrying things back to the kitchen to put away.
There are times at the end of the day that I walk into the kitchen to finish cleaning up – especially if we had to run somewhere after dinner – and I just want to curl up in the fetal position and hide.
Do you know the scene I mean? Perhaps you’ve seen it in your own kitchen:
The sink is full of dirty pots and a baking dish that will need to soak for about a week to get the black stuff off, the dishwasher is running, there are leftovers begging to be put away, bits of carrot ends on the cutting board, fruit that didn’t fit in the fruit bowl rolling around the counter, and you realize that lunches still need to be packed for the next day at school.
You know it would have been better to clean up as you cooked, but you were already behind and couldn’t serve dinner late because you had to go somewhere at 6:30. The stress of that dinner hour is still weighing on your shoulders as you gaze upon your kitchen and try to steel yourself for the cleanup hour.
And you know they’re all going to want to eat again tomorrow.
This post is part of a mini meal planning series, including so far:
- How to Get out of a Meal Planning Rut
- The Busy Mom’s Guide to Getting Real Food on the Breakfast Table
- How to Survive Dinner Time When Your Meal Plan Falls Apart
- The Busy Mom’s Guide to Getting Real Food on the Dinner Table
- and more to come!
Maybe It’s Just Too Hard
Maybe real food isn’t possible in modern society, you think.
I don’t have all day to devote to preserving and cooking food like Laura Ingalls Wilder’s family. Times have changed!
And they have, it is true.
But we don’t have to forage, farm and hunt all our own food anymore – nor should we feel forced into a “one size fits all” mentality about food, convenience and making our diets fit our lifestyles.
We can find the intersection of our busy lifestyle and an old-fashioned way of eating – simple, whole foods.
I can’t take the minutes out of the meal – the food processing companies can, but they also take the nourishment out, and that’s a trade-off that I won’t accept. But I CAN help you take the stressful feeling out of the minutes.
I can pinpoint exactly what is different on those days when I feel harried, stressed, rushed and at wit’s end as I try to get dinner on the table, and the days when I feel put together, peaceful, still rushed (always), and yet successful at getting dinner on the table when it needs to be there.
The good days are those when I make a plan and stick to it.
When I know exactly what I’ll serve for dinner and I’ve both determined when I need to get into the kitchen and done part of the work prior to the “power hour” right before dinner – it works.
The only way to achieve that is through menu planning.
I’ve fallen off and climbed back on the meal planning train more times than I can count in the last ten years, but I keep coming back for more because I know it’s vital to my real food success (and to maintaining my last shreds of sanity at the end of the day).
Life without meal plans feels a little like the clown act at the circus where everyone is running around out of control and nothing can get done, except nobody is laughing at our house.
Whether you’re a meal planning rookie or an old hat, I’m sure you’ll find both inspiration and motivation in these top 10 ultimate tenets you must remember and make your own in order for meal planning to work:
- Meal Plan Like Michael
- Meals Aren’t Outside of Time
- It’s OK if you’re not June Cleaver
- The Hail Mary Pass
- When Backward Thinking Finally is a Good Thing
- The Daily Habits that will Change your Life
- Meal Planning has a Fashion Sense
- The Marriage to the Circular
- Know Thyself
- Don’t Sell out to Sell Shoes
Read on for the explanation of each vital step!
This is the second in a mini-series on meal planning. The first gave some quicker advice on how to get out of a meal planning rut.
1. Meal Plan Like Michael
Any of you remember Michael Jordan and the Nike commercials?
“Just do it.”
You don’t have to be a pro to know that if you don’t “just do it,” it’s not going to get done. So you have to make meal planning a priority in your life.
Schedule a time in your calendar and make sure it’s done before you play.
That’s what we tell our kids about homework, and we know we need to take our own advice on this one! Before I sit down to relax on a Sunday night (because my meal planning is a recurring calendar item at 8:15 p.m. Sundays), before I check Facebook, before I go to sleep – I need to know what we’re having at least through Thursday.
2. Meals Aren’t Outside of Time
Start with your calendar.
It’s going to backfire if you sketch out your meals and THEN put them into your family’s calendar, because meals happen within the family’s schedule. So you have to plan them that way.
Look at your week’s schedule.
- What nights are busy nights?
- On-the-go meal times?
- What days do you have more time at home before dinnertime?
This should direct the types of meals you choose.
3. It’s OK if you’re not June Cleaver (or Julia Child. Or Rachael Ray.)
Plug in meals that work for your family.
Put slow cooker meals on days you need to walk in the door and eat.
Choose “on the go” meals for those times when it’s just going to be impossible for the family to sit down at the table together.
If you have a new recipe you want to try, plan it on a day when you’ll have a buffer on your time – your family doesn’t need to run off somewhere immediately after dinner and you are home for a while before dinner. For working families, this may be a weekend.
Plan larger or more complicated meals on those more “open” days too – and then determine if you might have leftovers for one of your busy days! I often plan leftovers for a day when my husband is away in the evening, because it’s easier for me and I don’t have to worry about there being quite as much food available.
For this school year in our family, for example, we’re having a slow cooker meal every Monday because we need to eat by 5p to get to church school by 6:00. We need a big meal to share every Tuesday because my in-laws visit. And I’m careful to watch for other busy nights (or busy days) that would require a slow cooker meal, and I’m collecting them on Pinterest.
4. The Hail Mary Pass
Take a pass over your meal plan to check on balance:
- type of meals
- meats used
- other grains included (you don’t want pasta every night even if it IS your kids’ ultimate favorite)
- $ value of meals (you can drastically cut food expenses by planning some inexpensive meals regularly)
It’s worth building a habit of taking two minutes to “check your work” so to speak and make a conscious effort to insert both nourishment and balance. The only way to really ensure that is to meal plan (hooray!).
5. When Backward Thinking Finally is a Good Thing
Once you’re happy with the meals you have planned for a week (or 3 days at a time, or a month – whatever works for you), now it’s time to think backward.
Look at the first meal on your menu and consider:
What do I need to do in advance to make this meal happen? What could I do in advance to make my life easier at the dinner hour?
Write those tasks on your calendar on the day before (remember in the last post when I told you to keep your meal plan integrated with your REAL calendar? That applies!). They might include:
- thaw meat, broth, or veggies
- bring bulk ingredients out from wherever they’re stored
- soak grains
- prep a portion of the meal (like boiling eggs or making mayo)
- marinate meat
- soak dry beans
As long as you use your calendar and get a jump start the day before, you will not believe the difference it will make in your dinner prep stress level! Which brings me to…
6. The Daily Habits that will Change your Life
I don’t want you to start obsessing about food, but I do think it’s wise to check on the question, “What are we going to eat?” often throughout the day. If I’m not going to order out or use frozen pizza often, I need to be thinking ahead about pretty much every single meal.
At the very least, you should shoot for these habits:
- Check your meal plan every night after dinner.
- Check your meal plan every morning when you get up.
- Know when you need to start cooking for that day.
It’s not like we generally forget to eat three times a day…we just need to remember to think about eating three times a day before it’s upon us.
7. Meal Planning has a Fashion Sense
Not really. But it can have style! StyleS, that is.
Bethany discusses six different meal planning styles in a post from last September (methinks people are ready to re-start their good habits after summer at this time of year, right??). Pick one that works for you, and be sure to see if you like her favorite, thematic menu planning.
My favorite method of planning is something I call Connected Meal Planning, which means I try to connect parts of meals to each other to streamline things. For example, I’ll plan a roast chicken one night, beef stir fry the next (with extra rice), and then chicken, rice and green beans (from Better Than a Box) the third night, using leftover roast chicken and leftover cooked rice. It makes meal 3 a super fast prep!
I also use connected meal planning to avoid wasting ingredients, like if I buy a bag of spinach – I’ll make sure it appears in two or three meals that week. This gets a momentum going and I feel like “I can’t give up on my meal plan now, it’s already underway and the spinach is open/rice is cooked/whatever!” Then I keep cooking, even when I’m getting worn out.
8. The Marriage to the Circular
You don’t have to be as organized as a wedding planner to be a meal planner, but you should stay connected to the grocery store ads in some way if budget is a concern for you (and with the exception of the very rich, I hope it is!).
- You can meal plan after you shop the sales (using what you bought).
- You can meal plan before you grocery shop (using the sales you know you’ll buy to guide you).
- Either way, your meal plan and your grocery store ad or “circular” as we called it in my childhood, should live together. So they should be married.
If you don’t shop much from the grocery store, there are plenty of other ways to keep budget in mind while you shop, so be sure to keep your supply in mind as you plan – do you need to eat seasonally, use your bulk stores, or plan a certain meat once a week because you bought a portion of a cow?
I do buy bulk foods, portions of cows and pigs and eat seasonally, but I also hit the regular grocery store – just not all that often.
We Americans spend the least amount of time cooking out of 34 countries surveyed. The French actually spend about 30 minutes a day just shopping for their food!
I often say I wish our country would eat more like the French…but not this time. I don’t have those 30 minutes a day!
I’m all about grocery shopping once a week (or even less sometimes). So planning is key to making that a reality.
9. Know Thyself
Meal planning is about as individual as jeans, in my opinion.
You gotta try on quite a few, and you’ll KNOW when you get the one that’s just right for you, the one you’ll wear until they’re practically transparent in the behind.
So know thyself:
- What meals are going to work for you?
- What’s in your pantry? You have to know your own house too…
- What do you need to put on the shopping list?
- How detailed do you need to be (sides, salad, etc. or just main dish?)
- How often will you meal plan? Weekly, monthly, recurring rotating schedule? Whatever works for you.
One style I’ve never tried is “loose” menu planning, recommended by a reader. You choose 5-7 meals for the week and make sure you have all the ingredients on hand, and then decide what you’ll actually eat each day the night before or even the afternoon of, depending on how much prep your recipes take.
One implementation strategy that I return to in very busy times is to think out of the box and do some dinner prep at other times of day, depending on your schedule.
When I have new babies, for example, I can’t always count on that “power hour” to make dinner right before we eat. I had to learn to find other times of day to do some prep, including the night before, the middle of the morning with an older child helping, or just as kids are coming in from school, with the understanding that I’ll be stopping and starting a lot.
Everyone is different, everyone’s “normal” pantry stores are different, and family’s tastes are different. But there’s a way to make meal planning work for you to get real food on your table nearly every night of the week (unless you consciously decide not to).
If you’ve ever looked at the various meal planning aids out there, from software to help you plan to weekly meal plan membership to food sent right to your house, I’m going to dig into each of the ones I’ve encountered over the years next week, so watch for that.
10. Don’t Sell out to Sell Shoes
But do take Nike’s advice: Just Do It.
Have I mentioned that already? It’s really the first and most important step of all.
You can do this!
I can’t promise a magical Dishes Fairy to make all those piles disappear, but at least if your meal goes well and is on time, you’ve got a better chance of dealing with it all as you go.
Meal planning is as close to magic as I know for a real food lifestyle, and once you make a commitment to just do it, start with your calendar, take a few minutes to think through your week, get a habit to plan ahead, and find just the right style for you, you’ll find yourself walking on air – just like Mike.
All the Meal Planning Details at KS Over the Years:
- The Very First Meal Planning Mission
- Benefits of Meal Planning
- Inspiration, How-To’s and Recipe Ideas
- Bethany’s thematic meal planning post
- Tiffany’s inspiring “how she came to love meal planning” challenge
- Maximizing the Freezer – it’s not just for casseroles or once-a-month cooking!
- Quick and Easy Meals – planning for meals when you’re just TIRED
- Help for Those Who Spend 8-5 Away From Home – yes, you can do it too!
- Top 3 Foodie Efficiency Tips – surprise! They ALL have to do with planning!
- Meal Planning for Breakfasts
- Meal Planning in the Summer (and other busy times)
- Reader’s Best Meal Planning Tips